Love is not always perfect

From the very beginning, the girl's family objected strongly on her
dating this guy. Saying that it has got to do with family background &
that the girl will have to suffer for the rest of her life if she were
to be with him. Due to family's pressure, the couple quarrel very
often. Though the girl love the guy deeply, but she always ask him:
"How deep is your love for me?" As the guy is not good with his words,
this often cause the girl to be very upset. With that & the family's
pressure, the girl often vent her anger on him. As for him, he only
endure it in silence.

After a couple of years, the guy finally graduated & decided to further
his studies in overseas. Before leaving, he proposed to the girl: "I'm
not very good with words. But all I know is that I love you. If you
allow me, I will take care of you for the rest of my life. As for your
family, I'll try my best to talk them round. Will you marry me?" The
girl agreed, & with the guy's determination, the family finally gave in
& agreed to let them get married. So before he leave, they got engaged.
The girl went out to the working society, whereas the guy was overseas,
continuing his studies. They sent their love through emails & phone
calls. Though it's hard, but both never thought of giving up.

One day, while the girl was on her way to work, she was knocked down by
a car that lost control. When she woke up, she saw her parents beside
her bed. She realized that she was badly injured. Seeing her mum
crying, she wanted to comfort her. But she realized that all that could
come out of her mouth was just a sigh. She has lost her voice......

The doctors says that the impact on her brain has caused her to lose
her voice. Listening to her parents' comfort, but with nothing coming
out from her, she broke down. During the stay in hospital, besides
silence cry,.....it's still just silence cry that companied her. Upon
reaching home, everything seems to be the same. Except for the ringing
tone of the phone. Which pierced into her heart everytime it rang. She
does not wish to let the guy know. & not wanting to be a burden to him,
she wrote a letter to him saying that she does not wish to wait
any longer. With that, she sent the ring back to him. In return, the
guy sent millions & millions of reply, and countless of phone calls,..
all the girl could do, besides crying, is still crying....

The parents decided to move away, hoping that she could eventually
forget everything & be happy. With a new environment, the girl learn
sign language & started a new life. Telling herself everyday that she
must forget the guy. One day, her friend came & told her that he's
back. She asked her friend not to let him know what happened to her.
Since then, there wasn't anymore news of him. A year has passed & her
friend came with an envelope, containing an invitation card for the
guy's wedding. The girl was shattered. When she open the letter, she
saw her name in it instead. When she was about to ask her friend
what's going on, she saw the guy standing in front of her. He used sign
language telling her "I've spent a year's time to learn sign language.
Just to let you know that I've not forgotten our promise. Let me have
the chance to be your voice. I Love You. With that, he slipped the ring
back into her finger. The girl finally smiled. IF u really like the
story, repost it so that ur frens can read it too......

-don't u just love happy ending- "We come to love not by finding a
perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

Management Story 2

Management Story 2

It's a fine sunny day in the forest and a rabbit is sitting outside his burrow, tippy-tapping on his typewriter. Along comes a fox, out for a walk.

Fox: "What are you working on?"
Rabbit: "My thesis."
Fox: "Hmm... What is it about?"
Rabbit: "Oh, I'm writing about how rabbits eat foxes."

Fox: "That's ridiculous ! Any fool knows that rabbits don't eat foxes!"
Rabbit: "Come with me and I'll show you!"

They both disappear into the rabbit's burrow. After few minutes, gnawing on a fox bone, the rabbit returns to his typewriter and resumes typing.

Soon a wolf comes along and stops to watch the hardworking rabbit.

Wolf: "What's that you are writing?"
Rabbit: "I'm doing a thesis on how rabbits eat wolves."

Wolf: "you don't expect to get such rubbish published, do you?"

Rabbit: "No problem. Do you want to see why?"

The rabbit and the wolf go into the burrow and again the rabbit returns by himself, after a few minutes, and goes back to typing.

Finally a bear comes along and asks, "What are you doing?

Rabbit: "I'm doing a thesis on how rabbits eat bears."

Bear: "Well that's absurd ! "

Rabbit: "Come into my home and I'll show you"

Scene : As they enter the burrow, the rabbit introduces the bear to the lion.

Moral:

IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW SILLY YOUR THESIS TOPIC IS; WHAT MATTERS IS WHOM YOU HAVE AS A SUPERVISOR.

Management Lesson
In the context of the working world:

IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW BAD YOUR PERFORMANCE IS; WHAT MATTERS IS WHETHER YOUR BOSS LIKES YOU OR NOT.

Management Story 1

Management Story 1

It's a fine sunny day in the forest and a lion is sitting outside his cave, lying lazily in the sun. Along comes a fox, out on a walk.

Fox: "Do you know the time, because my watch is broken"

Lion: "Oh, I can easily fix the watch for you"

Fox: "Hmm... But it's a very complicated mechanism, and your big claws will only destroy it even more"

Lion: "Oh no, give it to me, and it will be fixed"

Fox: "That's ridiculous! Any fool knows that lazy lions with great claws cannot fix complicated watches"

Lion: "Sure they do, give it to me and it will be fixed"

The lion disappears into his cave, and after a while he comes back with the watch which is running perfectly. The fox is impressed, and the lion continues to lie lazily in the sun, looking very pleased with himself.

Soon a wolf comes along and stops to watch the lazy lion in the sun.

Wolf: "Can I come and watch TV tonight with you, because mine is broken"

Lion: "Oh, I can easily fix your TV for you"
Wolf: "You don't expect me to believe such rubbish, do you? There is no way that a lazy lion with big claws can fix a complicated TV“

Lion: "No problem. Do you want to try it?"

The lion goes into his cave, and after a while comes back with a perfectly fixed TV. The wolf goes away happily and amazed.

Scene : Inside the lion's cave. In one corner are half a dozen small and intelligent looking rabbits who are busily doing very complicated work with very detailed instruments. In the other corner lies a huge lion looking very pleased with himself.

IF YOU WANT TO KNOW WHY A MANAGER IS FAMOUS; LOOK AT THE WORK OF HIS SUBORDINATES.

IF YOU WANT TO KNOW WHY SOMEONE UNDESERVED IS PROMOTED; LOOK AT THE WORK OF HIS SUBORDINATES.

The 90/10 Principle Stephen Convey

The 90/10 Principle
Author : Stephen Covey ( Management Guru)


Have you read this before?

Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you
react to situations). What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how
you react. What does this mean?


We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the
car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our
whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control
over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How?


By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can control your
reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.


Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup
of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what
happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.
You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She
breaks down in tears.

After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing
the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows.
You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your
daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for
school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You
rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you
drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.

After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at
school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After
arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.
Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and
worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find
small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why?

Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is " D".


You had no control over what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.


Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say,
"It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a
towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you
come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting
on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully
greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.


Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

Why? Because of how you REACTED.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90%
was determined by your reaction.


Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.

If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the
attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative
comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong
reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out
etc.


How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?

Do you lose your temper?

Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall
off)

Do you curse?

Does your blood pressure skyrocket?

Do you try and bump them?

WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin
your drive?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will
work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.

Bad days follow bad days.

Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. There is constant stress,
lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time. Anger breaks
friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends
are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you? If
so, do not be discouraged..


You can be different!

Understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life.........!!!!!!!

The Shower Test

The Shower Test

When you step into a shower, which part of the body do you wash first?

A. Chest
B. Face
C. Armpits
D. Hair
E. Private
F. Shoulders
G. Others

A. Chest: You are a practical person. Straightforward and do not beat around the bush. To you, convenience is of paramount importance. You hate to be distracted when concentrating and are impatient with people who do not see things your way. A good sex partner and willing to try new things. Your best partner in life will be those who choose D (Hair).

B. Face: Money is important to you and you will do anything to get it. Integrity and dignity is not important. You feel that friends are there to be used and life is one big hassle. Other people find it hard to understand you, but you are not concerned as to what they think. Very self-centered person. Average sex partner as too selfish and tend to be absorbed in self pleasure at the expense of your partner. Your best partner in life will be those who choose E (Private) and G (Others).

C. Armpits: You are a dependable and hard working person. Generally very popular person as you are very down to earth and willing to help others. Tend to get yourself into trouble as you cannot tell whether people are genuine towards you. Make very poor sex partners as you are the working type with average talent. Your best partner in life will be those who choose F (Shoulders).

D. Hair: Artistic type. Daydreaming is your hobby, but you can achieve what most other people cannot. Dedication is lacking, but you will work tirelessly towards goals which are to your liking. Money is not important. Friends are but only intellectuals and fellow artistic types. Make the best sex partners as you are most willing to explore and please ther other partner. Talent is your main strength. Your best partner in life will be those who chose A (Chest) and E (Private).

E. Private Shy type. You lack self confidence and tend to be bullied by others. You do not have lots of friends as others find you boring and unattractive. Perserverance is not your strength and you tend to give up easily and at the first opportunity. However, you make an above average sex partner. You are able to show your true emotions to very few people. Hence in sex, you find your inner strengths. Your best sex partner in life will be those who choose B (Face) and D (Hair).

F. Shoulder: A born loser. You fail in everything that you do. People dislike you and you tend to spend your time alone. Your type have been known to be heavy gamblers and drinkers. You see the world as a living hell. Money and power is also important to you. But your luck will always fail you. You make a lousy sex partner. You will find it difficult to find a partner in life. Those who choose C (Armpits) are your only chance.

G. Others: You are a very average person. Undoubtedly, you have your inner strengths, but people find it hard to see. You must learn to be a little bit more adventurous and see your potential. Deep down, you are very likeable person with very few faults. However, the key will be to make your strengts stand out and not just hide your weaknessess. You are an average sex partner. You have great fantasies about different techniques, but unfortunately are not brave enough to try them out. Your best partner in life will be those who choose B (Face).

Cup & Water - Life

A group of working adults got together to visit their University
lecturer. The Lecturer was happy to see them. Conversation soon turned
into complaints about stress in work and life.

The Lecturer just smiled and went to the kitchen to get an assortment of
cups - some porcelain, some in plastic, some in glass, some plain
looking and some looked rather expensive and exquisite.

The Lecturer offered his former students the cups to get drinks for
themselves.

When all the students had a cup in hand with water, the Lecturer spoke:
"If you noticed, all the nice looking, expensive cups were taken up,
leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal that you
only want the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems
and stress. What all you wanted was water, not the cup, but we
unconsciously went for the better cups."

"Just like in life, if Life is Water, then the jobs, money and position
in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold/maintain Life, but
the quality of Life doesn't change."

"If we only concentrate on the cup, we won't have time to enjoy/taste
the water in it."