Easy Vs Difficult

Easy is to judge the mistakes of others
Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes

Easy is to talk without thinking
Difficult is to refrain the tongue

Easy is to hurt someone who loves us.
Difficult is to heal the wound...

Easy is to forgive others
Difficult is to ask for forgiveness

Easy is to set rules.
Difficult is to follow them...

Easy is to dream every night.
Difficult is to fight for a dream...

Easy is to show victory.
Difficult is to assume defeat with dignity...

Easy is to admire a full moon.
Difficult to see the other side...

Easy is to stumble with a stone.
Difficult is to get up...

Easy is to enjoy life every day.
Difficult to give its real value...

Easy is to promise something to someone.
Difficult is to fulfill that promise...

Easy is to say we love.
Difficult is to show it every day...

Easy is to criticize others.
Difficult is to improve oneself...

Easy is to make mistakes.
Difficult is to learn from them...

Easy is to weep for a lost love.
Difficult is to take care of it so not to lose it.

Easy is to think about improving.
Difficult is to stop thinking it and put it into action...

Easy is to think bad of others
Difficult is to give them the benefit of the doubt...

Easy is to receive
Difficult is to give

Easy to read this
Difficult to follow

Easy is keep the friendship with words
Difficult is to keep it with meanings

To Realize

To realize
The value of a sister
Ask someone
Who doesn't have one.

To realize
The value of ten years:
Ask a newly
Divorced couple.

To realize
The value of four years:
Ask a graduate.

To realize
The value of one year:
Ask a student who
Has failed a final exam.

To realize
The value of nine months:
Ask a mother who gave birth to a still born.

To realize
The value of one month:
Ask a mother
who has given birth to
A premature baby.

To realize
The value of one week:
Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize
The value of one hour:
Ask the lovers who are waiting to Meet.

To realize
The value of one minute:
Ask a person
Who has missed the train, bus or plane.

To realize
The value of one-second:
Ask a person
Who has survived an accident...

To realize
The value of one millisecond:
Ask the person who has won a silver medal in the Olympics

Time waits for no one.

Treasure every moment you have.
You will treasure it even more when

you can share it with someone special.

To realize the value of a friend:
Lose one.

Hold my hand

A little girl and her father were crossing a bridge. The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter, "Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river."

The little girl said, "No, Dad. You please hold my hand."

"What's the difference, darling?", asked the puzzled father.

The little girl replied, "Dad, if I hold your hand and something happens to me, I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go."

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. So hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold yours.

Petrol Hike - Reader's Reply to Advice

Extracted from Forwarded Mail

Good mail with points to ponder upon
==========================================================================
I refer to the letter by Paul Ooi of Colorado entitled Oil prices in
Malaysia still cheaper. I must say Ooi's comparison of petrol prices in
Malaysia and the US is not logical, to say the least. He implies that we
Malaysians should not be so agitated over the recent hike in petrol
prices because we are paying US$2 per gallon while the Americans,
Japanese and Hong Kongites are paying US$2.35, US$3.50 and US$4.50
respectively.

I am totally surprised that it did not occur to a well-traveled person
like Ooi that Malaysians make much less than the people in the three
places he named. Malaysia has a GDP per capita of US$10,400 while the
United States, Japan and Hong Kong have a GDP per capita of US$41,800,
US$30,400 and US$36,800 respectively. Now, is Ooi actually saying that
someone who makes US$10,000 a year and pays US$2 for each gallon of
petrol is better off than a person who makes US$40,000 a year but pays
US$2.35 (a mere US$0.35 more) for each gallon of petrol? Doesn't make
that much sense, does it?

I'm tired of the usual banner of 'oil prices in Malaysia are still
cheaper when compared to others' every time price hikes take place. The
government must think we Malaysians are a bunch of donkeys. The fact is,
despite the mediocre education the government gives to most of us, we
can actually do simple maths. If the government had really done its job
all these decades, we would not be plagued by corruption and wastage and
would be doing so much better in the income and purchasing power
departments. The issue of oil subsidy would not even arise as we can
then afford to pay for unsubsidised fuel.

The government also launches into elaborate explanations as to why we
need to reduce subsidies for fuel and inject the salvaged money into
'much needed' development. But since the past four or five price hikes,
our development has remained at that -' much needed'. Can anybody
honestly say that the public transportation system in our country has
improved ever so tremendously so as to finally allow us to depend on it
to get to work, to school, to the market, the court, the hospital, for
meetings, etc?

Okay, so we understand the pressing economic need to put our money in
development, money which will otherwise be wasted away in fuel
subsidies. Understanding, however, does not put food on our tables.
Despite our comprehension of the economics of fuel subsidies, we still
cannot make ends meet. I'm not against the idea of development. It's
just that for the past 18 months or so, petrol prices have increased
about 40%, diesel prices about 100% and I have not had 1% of increase in
my pay. How, pray tell, am I supposed to cope with this increase in the
cost of living? The saying goes that by the time you can make ends meet,
they move the ends. In my case, I was not even close to making the ends
meet, and they have already moved the ends.

For the benefit of Ooi, I present the typical monthly expenses of a
middle-income earner in Kuala Lumpur:

Salary: RM2,600 (after EPF and tax deductions)

Minus:

Housing: RM300
Car loan: RM500
Study loan: RM200
Phone and Internet: RM150
Insurance: RM180
Petrol (lives a distance away from KL to take advantage of lower house
rent) - new price: RM600
Toll: RM180

Salary left for food: RM490

No savings, no entertainment budget, no new clothing, not much to give
the family. And when the time is up for car insurance and road tax,
credit card debt is incurred. Please don't tell this person to take
public transport. First of all, public transport does not reach where he
is living. Secondly, I really would not dare to ask him to rely on the
public transport to get to work and meetings on time. If he is a lawyer,
then he definitely does not want to take public transport unless he
doesn't mind his cases being struck out by the court due to his late
appearance.

If that is the life of a middle-income earner, my heart really goes out
to the low-income earner.

I do not think Malaysians are being unreasonable about the hike in fuel
prices. Trying to make ends meet and making sure the family has enough
food is not unreasonable. Feeling desperate and angry when price hikes
takes away the ability to buy enough food for the family is not
unreasonable. Unreasonable is when one complains about having to buy
less Gucci shoes. Unreasonable is when one tells his countrymen to
change their already marginalised lifestyles when he himself is driven
around in luxury cars while living in mansions and having his petrol
paid for by the rakyat's taxmoney. Unreasonable is when one tells people
earning less than RM1,000 a month to tighten their already tight belts
when he himself dines on the finest food in the finest ambience.

Coming back to Ooi, since he had so selflessly offered advice to
spendthrift and inconsiderate petrol-gulping Malaysians to change their
lifestyle, allow me to reciprocate his kindness. My advice to Ooi is to
come back to Malaysia, make Malaysian ringgit and pay US$2 for a gallon
of petrol. Ooi can also practise what he preaches about reviewing 'our
petrol consumption patterns'. In saying this, Ooi joins Noor Yahaya
Hamzah of New Zealand in admonishing Malaysians over their reluctance to
walk or ride a bicycle instead of taking the car.

Notice how these people are always those who live outside Malaysia? They
give their patronising advice from their comfortable homes in First
World countries with First World incomes and comfortable climate. It
would not be so easy to mete out such generous advice if you were living
in a Third World developing nation with your Third World income and
sweltering heat.

Real Meanings

Friend Vs Best Friend

Friend: calls your parents by mr. and mrs.
Best friend: calls your parents dad and mom.

Friend: has never seen you cry
Best friend: has always had the best shoulder to cry on

Friend: never asks for anything to eat or drink
Best friend: opens the fridge and makes herself at home

Friend: asks you to write down your number.
Best friend: they ask you for their number (cuz they can't remember it)

Friend: borrows your stuff for a few days then gives it back.
Best friend: has a closet full of your stuff

Friend: only knows a few things about you
Best friend: could write a biography on your life story

Friend: will leave you behind if that is what the crowd is doing
Best friend: will always go with you

Love & Marriage

A student asks a teacher, "What is love?"
The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the padi field and choose the biggest padi and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick."
The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big padi, but he wonders....may be there is a bigger one later.
Then he saw another biggerone... but may be there is a even bigger one waiting for him.
Later, when he finished more than half of the padi field, he start to realize that the padi is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted !!!!
So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand.
The teacher told him, "...this is love... you keep looking for a better one,but when later you realize, you have already miss the person...."

"What is marriage then?" the student asked.
The teacher said, "in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.
"The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher.
The teacher told him, "this time you bring back a corn.... you look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get.... this is marriage."

Making Changes Happen

Everywhere you go, you hear people talk about the changes they want to make in their lives.
"I want to lose weight."
"I want a better job."
"I want to make more money."
"I want to make a film."
"I want to write a book".
Maybe for you, it's to travel round the world, to get higher education, or improving a current relationship. We all have goals and changes we want to make and we talk a lot about wanting them, but how many of us really do something?
Sometimes, the talking turns into complaining. Because we accumulate so many wants, but never go about resolving them, we begin to feel dissatisfied. We start to make up excuses why success is not possible. Is it time? Is it money? It's family then, isn't it? We begin to blame other people, we blame events, we blame bad luck, and sometimes we blame ourselves. At the end of the day, this builds up into a massive store of regret.
Besides, these reasons are mostly inventions of fear and laziness. If you look at your excuses critically, how many of them are genuine? People who feel stuck are always saying "I can't afford an hour's workout a day!", or "I'm too forgetful!", or "I'm not a business person!". Basically, this is an admission of one's lack of control over one's life.
If someone gave you a million dollars to run on the treadmill for 20 minutes a day, could you do it? How great is your desire to have a better physique? How much is that worth? Very often, it's not because we can't, it's because we haven't found the motivation.
With the right motivation (and it doesn't have to be money), you can change and create winning actions in your life. You are not locked into any behaviour. Stop placing limits on yourself and talking about the reasons why you can't make changes happen. Nothing defines you except you yourself. Do you really need that extra cup of coffee? Or that extra mug of beer? What about your quota of three cigarettes a day? Or that new mobile phone? What's really stopping you from being more loving to your partner? Is the romance really fading? Or are you giving more priority to other areas?
Take back your own power and decide to get into action to achieve the results you want

What girls say really mean .. .

She says: "I don't want to ruin our friendship."What she means: I am not attracted to you, or I don't feel enough chemistry to date you -- but I do like you as friend.
Why she does this: She probably does want to remain friends, but doesn't want to hurt your feelings by admitting that she doesn't feel the same attraction for you.
What you should do: Don't take it personally; she just doesn't feel the same chemistry as you do. Take the hint and work on being friends with her, if that's what you want.
She says: "I'm just so busy with work right now." What she means: I am not interested in fitting you into my schedule.
Why she does this: She wants to let you down easy. Instead of being blunt, she is hoping you'll just get the picture.
What you should do: When a woman likes a man, she will always find time for him -- no matter what her schedule is like. So don't kid yourself into thinking that the situation might change. Instead, move on right away.
She says: "Are you seeing anyone right now?" What she means: I might like to submit an application for the position of your girlfriend.
Why she does this: She wants to make sure she is not wasting her precious flirting energy on a man who is already spoken for.
What you should do: Answer honestly, and then hit her up for her phone number

She says: "Do you really want to go to that restaurant/movie/dinner party?" What she means: I really don't want to go to.
Why she does this: She doesn't want to go, but she doesn't want to appear stubborn either. She is probably hoping you'll sense her hesitation and come up with an alternate plan that pleases her.
What you should do: If you have your heart set on going to that particular destination, stick to your guns. Otherwise, you might want to switch up in order to please her. Remember this: If you keep her happy, she'll keep you happy.
She says: "You have a knack for dealing with kids. They really seem to respond to you." What she means: I am contemplating eventually having children with you and am wondering where you stand in that department.
Why she does this: An indirect question is her way of feeling you out without freaking you out.
What you should do: Don't freak out. She is probably thinking very distantly into the future (yes, women do this). If, however, you absolutely positively know that you never want kids, this would be a good time to say it.
She says: "Where is this relationship going?" What she means: I would like us to graduate to a more serious, exclusive relationship.
Why she does this: She wants you to be the one to suggest exclusivity.
What you should do: This depends on whether or not you actually want exclusivity. If so, suggest it. If not, let her know that you care about her, but are not interested in being exclusive right now.
She says: "I feel so close to you right now. You know me so well." What she means: I am starting to feel the l-word, but I don't want to be the first to say it.
Why she does this: It's a scary thing to be the first to say "I love you." It's much easier for her to hint and hope that you'll take the plunge first.
What you should do: Do not -- under any circumstances -- say the l-word if you don't mean it. If you do feel it, then go ahead; otherwise, don't say anything. In the long run, you'll be happy not to get entangled in such a lie.
She says: "I feel like our relationship is stuck in a routine right now." What she means: I want you to be more romantic and spontaneous, and surprise me more. I need you to pay more attention to my needs.
Why she does this: She doesn't want to hurt your feelings and admit that you are, in part, the cause of the rut.
What you should do: You don't need to change your personality entirely, but it wouldn't kill you to surprise her every once in a while. Call her out of the blue and tell her you're taking her for dinner, go on a spontaneous weekend away, or just surprise her with

She says: "A man was flirting with me all night." What she means: Does it make you jealous?
Why she does this: She wants you to know that she's a hot commodity and that other men are interested in her. She wants you to appreciate what you have.
What you should do: Don't respond to it in a way she'll expect, like by getting angry or jealous. Instead, pay her a compliment -- she's definitely fishing for it. Don't get all insane with jealousy; just let her know what she means to you, or else she'll be playing this card every so often to set you straight.
She says: "Do you get along well with your mother?" What she means: Are you a family man?
Why she does this: A man who gets along with his mother tends to be more loyal, sensitive and devoted -- at least that's the stereotype that a lot of women buy into.
What you should do: Talk about how close you and your mother are; you could even tell a couple of stories. Just enough to affirm that yes, you get along with her.

She says: "I'm just not ready to make a commitment." What she means: I'm not ready to commit to you, and may never be.
Why she does this: She uses this tactic to soften the blow; nine times out of 10, this means that she doesn't see a future with you... ever.
What you should do: Don't stick around until she's ready to make a commitment. Chances are, when she's finally ready, it won't be with you.
She says: "I think we should stay friends." What she means: I am trying to cut you out of my life gradually.
Why she does this: She thinks it would be easier to gradually stop seeing you instead of going cold turkey. She may even want to keep you around as a backup.
What you should do: Stay friends if you like. But don't let yourself become the backup guy. If she wants to get back together down the line, ask yourself if she's only doing it because she hasn't found anyone else.

Laws For Men & Women

15 Laws for Women
15 Laws for Women


1. Don't imagine you can change a man - unless he's in diapers.
2. What do you do if your boyfriend walks out? You shut the door.

3. If they put a man on the moon - they should be able to put them all
up there.

4. Never let your man's mind wander - it's too little to be out alone.

5. Go for younger men. You might as well - they never mature anyway.

6. Men are all the same - they just have different faces, so that you
can tell them apart.

7. Definition of a bachelor: a man who has missed the opportunity to
make some woman miserable.

8. Women don't make fools of men - most of them are the do-it-yourself
types.

9. Best way to get a man to do something - suggest they are too old for
it.

10. Love is blind - but marriage is a real eye-opener.

11. If you want a committed man - look in a mental hospital.

12. The children of Palestine wandered around the desert for 40 years.
Even in biblical times, men wouldn't ask for directions.

13. If he asks what sort of books you're interested in, tell him
checkbooks.

14. Remember a sense of humor does not mean that you tell him jokes, it
means that you laugh at his.

15. Sadly, all men are created equal.

Reply Your SMSs

Jane is a typical college girl who enjoys life to the fullest. She
loves her
    boyfriend so much and texts him very now and then. Mark is Jane's
boyfriend
    who works in a call centre in LA. He's always busy doing so many
things. He only
    manages to reply to Jane's texts when he got off from work.


    One time mark receives a message from Jane: "hi baby! How are you?
i miss
    you!  Call my house when u get home. Take care! I love you!"


    Mark ignored the message because he always receive the same
message
whenever
    it is time for him to go home from work.
    "Baby, i miss you. Did you eat yet?! Take care when you get home!
ill be
    waiting for your call. I love you!"

    "Baby, where are you?!  Its unfair that you don't reply to my
texts... well,
    I'm just gonna wait for your call..I love you!"


    Mark reaches home and lay on his bed. The last time he knew is
that
he's
    reading Jane's text. He was so tired he fall asleep and wasn't
able
to return Jane's call.
    He can still hear his phone beeps but he's too tired to take a
glimpse on the message.


    When he woke up the next day, he remembers that he needs to call
Jane.
    He ignored the messages and dialed Jane's. No one's answering in
her house.
    He called up her cellphone and he was surprised that her father
answered the
    call.
    In his voice you can feel his tears and hear his heart tearing
apart.
    "Mark, why havent you called?. Jane was waiting for your call all
night!"
    "Dad im sorry. I fell asleep being so tired from work... I was
calling your
    house but no one was answering. where are you? so I can come
over."
    "Just meet me at Jane's house."


    Mark went to Jane's house and much to his surprised he saw a lot
of
people
    inside. The house was so lighted but you can see the gloom on
every
person
    you'll meet there. He was greeted by Jane's mom on tears. She hug
him tight
    and cried on his shoulders.
    "Jane was waiting for you. She didn't come with us because she was
waiting
    for your call. She was killed by robbers that broke in our house.
She's gone,
    Mark She's gone."  "That's impossible..she texted me..how could
this happen!"


    Mark can't look who's inside the coffin. He can't move and it
feels
like his
    whole body is stuck on the chair he is seating on. He wanted to
cry
but it
    seems that something is blocking his tears to fall down. He turned
to his
    phone and read the messages of Jane.


    "Baby, I'm not coming with my mom and dad.. I'm just gonna wait
for
your call.."


    "Baby. im so scared... it seems like there's someone downstairs..
Please call
    me now!"


    "Baby. Someone's here.. They might kill me...Please call me now,
where are you?
    I need you here..."


    "Baby.... i love you!..."  He wanted to shout and cry so loud.
It's
true that Jane is
    waiting for his call. Up to her last breath she only thinks about
him. He stared at Jane
    inside the coffin. Suddenly tears starts flowing down his cheeks.
He can't say
    anything. The only words he uttered...


    "My baby, I'm so sorry! I could have known, I could have fought
for
you! I'm really sorry!
    I love you so much!"

Equations of Relationships

Smart man + smart woman = romance
Smart man + dumb woman = affair
Dumb man + smart woman = marriage
Dumb man + dumb woman = pregnancy

OFFICE ARITHMETIC
Smart boss + smart employee = profit
Smart boss + dumb employee = production
Dumb boss + smart employee = promotion
Dumb boss + dumb employee = overtime

SHOPPING MATH
A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he needs.
A woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn't need.

GENERAL EQUATIONS & STATISTICS
A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.
A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.
A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.
A successful woman is one who can find such a man.

HAPPINESS
To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot and love him a
little.
To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot and not try to
understand her at all.

LONGEVITY
Married men live longer than single men do, but married men are a lot more
willing to die.

PROPENSITY TO CHANGE
A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't.
A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, and she does.

DISCUSSION TECHNIQUE
A woman has the last word in any argument.
Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.

HOW TO STOP PEOPLE FROM BUGGING YOU ABOUT GETTING MARRIED
Old aunts used to come up to me at weddings, poking me in the ribs and
cackling, telling me, "You're next." They stopped after I started doing
the same thing to them at funerals.

8 Types of Guys Women Avoid

1. The Needy Guy
He is overly emotional and shares all his feelings with her right away. The Needy Guy also doubts himself and needs constant reassurance about his relationship, work and friendships.

Why he is so unappealing: Confidence and independence are very sexy traits in a man -- insecurity and dependence are not. Most women look for a strong partner they can lean on. So if you are always leaning on her -- especially in the early stages of a relationship -- she might doubt your ability to do this. And since women tend to come into relationships with all sorts of insecurities, she won't want to deal with yours as well as her own.

What to do if you're that guy: Timing is everything, so you just need to keep your feelings in check at the beginning of the relationship. Try to hold off on sharing all your feelings or divulging your insecurities. Once you are far enough along in the relationship, you can share as much as you want. By that point, she'll appreciate knowing what's on your mind.

2. The Predictable Guy
Women don't like the Predictable Guy because they know exactly how he'll react to everything. He follows formulas and never wants to do anything differently. For example, he'd never surprise a woman by spontaneously taking her out for the night.

Why he is so unappealing: Women look for a certain amount of unpredictability in a man -- they want a free spirit. This is why some women seem to be drawn to the notorious "bad boy." It's not that they are drawn to his badness exactly, but rather to his unpredictability.

What to do if you're that guy: You don't have to be "bad" or a completely free spirit to win her over. But try to mix things up -- particularly at the beginning of a relationship. Call her and tell her you want to go to the countryside for the day, or for an impromptu meal. After she gets to know you, she won't mind as much if you slip back into your routine a bit. But don't forget to continue to surprise her once in a while -- doing so will keep the relationship fresh.

3. The Arrogant Guy
He has a huge ego and he's condescending. He is also rude -- not necessarily to her, but to anyone he perceives as beneath him. And that's just as bad as being rude directly to her.

Why he is so unappealing: A woman often looks at how a man treats other people to assess his personality. So even though you might be nice to her on a date, she'll be paying attention to how you act with other people too.

What to do if you're that guy: No woman wants to be talked down to, so I shouldn't have to tell you to shed the ego when you are dealing with her directly. But in order to really impress her, you need to treat everyone around you with a certain amount of respect -- because she'll be watching.

4. The Boorish Guy
The Boorish Guy doesn't try to hide the fact that he's checking out other women while in her presence; he flirts with the waitress and he even goes as far as to brag about his past conquests. Overall, he lacks respect for women.

Why he is so unappealing: Not only is this type of behavior infuriating, it can also be bad for a woman's self-esteem. If you act like this when you are first getting to know a woman, you won't stand a chance.

What to do if you're that guy: If you can't curb this kind of behavior permanently, then you at least have to keep it in check when making a first impression. Keep your flirting and wandering eyes at bay -- and maybe eventually it'll become a habit. Because, truthfully, if you introduce this kind of behavior into a relationship at any point, she won't be pleased.

5. The Cheap Guy
He invites a woman to dinner and then subtly suggests they go Dutch. He never splurges to buy her flowers and he always opts for the cheapest wine. He makes her feel like they're on a tight budget from the very first date.

Why he is so unappealing: Your first few dates should always be carefree; the words "saving" and "budget" shouldn't come up. If she spends the first date picturing a lifetime of penny-pinching with you, you're out of luck.

What to do if you're that guy: Loosen up the purse strings a little when you're courting a woman. You don't need to spend a fortune to make a good impression, but you do need to make her feel like she's special. Flowers are a nice touch once in a while.

6. The Arguer
This type of guy turns every conversation into an argument. When he takes a woman out, he makes her feel like she's in debate class rather than on a date. And in doing so, he makes her feel defensive and self-conscious.

Why he is so unappealing: A date should be a pleasant experience, but if she's on the defensive the whole time, she will not be enjoying herself. Remember this: Constant arguing and debating is a stress -- and you certainly don't want her to associate you with a stressful experience.

What to do if you're that guy: Most importantly, relax. If you are this type of guy, you probably revert to debating because you are nervous or unsure of what to say. So before the date, brainstorm conversation topics and questions you can ask her. That way, you won't be as likely to revert to arguing during lulls in the conversation.

7. The Self-Righteous Guy
This guy is very judgmental of others. He probably doesn't drink or smoke, and he doesn't hesitate to tell others to follow suit. From the very first date, he'll preach to a woman, telling her she shouldn't drink wine or get dessert.

Why he is so unappealing: No one wants to be judged, especially on a date. She'll just find it annoying and rude.

What to do if you're that guy: You can preach a little once you are actually in a relationship. But until that point, her drinking, smoking and dessert-eating habits are none of your business.

8. The Misogynist
This guy makes no secret of his bitterness toward women. On a date, he can't help but exude negativity toward his companion and the entire female gender by making rude and insulting comments.

Why he is so unappealing: This is the only type of behavior on this list that is, in fact, a total deal-breaker. And it's not surprising. What woman do you know that would like to be in a relationship with a man like this?

What to do if you're that guy: You need to reconsider your attitude if you are this type of guy. This type of behavior is not only rude and nasty, it is often the last straw in breaking up a relationship.

be the amazing guy

Don't stress out too much if you see yourself on the list above. But do remember this: These are behaviors that women look out for at the beginning of a relationship. So if you want to put your best foot forward and make a good impression, study the list and make sure to keep these female-unfriendly behaviors to a minimum.

Lessons of Life (4 Seasons)

Lessons on Life

There was a man who had four sons. He wanted his sons to learn not to judge
things too quickly. So he sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look
at a pear tree that was a great distance away.

The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in
summer, and the youngest son in the fall.

When they had all gone and come back, he called them together to describe
what they had seen.

The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted.

The second son said no it was covered with green buds and full of promise.

The third son disagreed; he said it was laden with blossoms that smelled so
sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen.

The last son disagreed with all of them; he said it was ripe and drooping
with fruit, full of life and fulfillment.

The man then explained to his sons that they were all right, because they
had each seen but only one season in the tree's life.

He told them that you cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season,
and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come
from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up.

If you give up when it's winter, you will miss the promise of your spring,
the beauty of your summer, fulfillment of your fall.


Moral lessons:

Don't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest.

Don't judge life by one difficult season.
Persevere through the difficult patches and better times are sure to come some time or later

The Power of Puntiations

An English professor wrote the words,

"A woman without her man is nothing"

on the chalkboard and asked his students to punctuate it correctly.

All the males in the class wrote: A woman, without her man, is nothing.

All the females in the class wrote: "A woman: without her, man is nothing.

Poem To Friend

For those tired of the usual "friend" poems, here's a touch of reality.

When you're sad, I'll get you drunk and help you plot revenge against the scum-sucking bitch who made you sad.

When you're blue, I'll try to dislodge whatever's choking you.

When you smile, I'll know you finally got laid.

When you're scared, I'll rag you about it every chance I get.

When you're worried, I'll tell you horrible stories about how much worse it could be and to quit whining.

When you're confused, I'll use little words to explain it to your dumb ass.

When you're sick, stay away from me until you're well again. I don't want whatever you have.

When you fall, I'll point and laugh at your clumsy ass.

Love is not always perfect

From the very beginning, the girl's family objected strongly on her
dating this guy. Saying that it has got to do with family background &
that the girl will have to suffer for the rest of her life if she were
to be with him. Due to family's pressure, the couple quarrel very
often. Though the girl love the guy deeply, but she always ask him:
"How deep is your love for me?" As the guy is not good with his words,
this often cause the girl to be very upset. With that & the family's
pressure, the girl often vent her anger on him. As for him, he only
endure it in silence.

After a couple of years, the guy finally graduated & decided to further
his studies in overseas. Before leaving, he proposed to the girl: "I'm
not very good with words. But all I know is that I love you. If you
allow me, I will take care of you for the rest of my life. As for your
family, I'll try my best to talk them round. Will you marry me?" The
girl agreed, & with the guy's determination, the family finally gave in
& agreed to let them get married. So before he leave, they got engaged.
The girl went out to the working society, whereas the guy was overseas,
continuing his studies. They sent their love through emails & phone
calls. Though it's hard, but both never thought of giving up.

One day, while the girl was on her way to work, she was knocked down by
a car that lost control. When she woke up, she saw her parents beside
her bed. She realized that she was badly injured. Seeing her mum
crying, she wanted to comfort her. But she realized that all that could
come out of her mouth was just a sigh. She has lost her voice......

The doctors says that the impact on her brain has caused her to lose
her voice. Listening to her parents' comfort, but with nothing coming
out from her, she broke down. During the stay in hospital, besides
silence cry,.....it's still just silence cry that companied her. Upon
reaching home, everything seems to be the same. Except for the ringing
tone of the phone. Which pierced into her heart everytime it rang. She
does not wish to let the guy know. & not wanting to be a burden to him,
she wrote a letter to him saying that she does not wish to wait
any longer. With that, she sent the ring back to him. In return, the
guy sent millions & millions of reply, and countless of phone calls,..
all the girl could do, besides crying, is still crying....

The parents decided to move away, hoping that she could eventually
forget everything & be happy. With a new environment, the girl learn
sign language & started a new life. Telling herself everyday that she
must forget the guy. One day, her friend came & told her that he's
back. She asked her friend not to let him know what happened to her.
Since then, there wasn't anymore news of him. A year has passed & her
friend came with an envelope, containing an invitation card for the
guy's wedding. The girl was shattered. When she open the letter, she
saw her name in it instead. When she was about to ask her friend
what's going on, she saw the guy standing in front of her. He used sign
language telling her "I've spent a year's time to learn sign language.
Just to let you know that I've not forgotten our promise. Let me have
the chance to be your voice. I Love You. With that, he slipped the ring
back into her finger. The girl finally smiled. IF u really like the
story, repost it so that ur frens can read it too......

-don't u just love happy ending- "We come to love not by finding a
perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

Management Story 2

Management Story 2

It's a fine sunny day in the forest and a rabbit is sitting outside his burrow, tippy-tapping on his typewriter. Along comes a fox, out for a walk.

Fox: "What are you working on?"
Rabbit: "My thesis."
Fox: "Hmm... What is it about?"
Rabbit: "Oh, I'm writing about how rabbits eat foxes."

Fox: "That's ridiculous ! Any fool knows that rabbits don't eat foxes!"
Rabbit: "Come with me and I'll show you!"

They both disappear into the rabbit's burrow. After few minutes, gnawing on a fox bone, the rabbit returns to his typewriter and resumes typing.

Soon a wolf comes along and stops to watch the hardworking rabbit.

Wolf: "What's that you are writing?"
Rabbit: "I'm doing a thesis on how rabbits eat wolves."

Wolf: "you don't expect to get such rubbish published, do you?"

Rabbit: "No problem. Do you want to see why?"

The rabbit and the wolf go into the burrow and again the rabbit returns by himself, after a few minutes, and goes back to typing.

Finally a bear comes along and asks, "What are you doing?

Rabbit: "I'm doing a thesis on how rabbits eat bears."

Bear: "Well that's absurd ! "

Rabbit: "Come into my home and I'll show you"

Scene : As they enter the burrow, the rabbit introduces the bear to the lion.

Moral:

IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW SILLY YOUR THESIS TOPIC IS; WHAT MATTERS IS WHOM YOU HAVE AS A SUPERVISOR.

Management Lesson
In the context of the working world:

IT DOESN'T MATTER HOW BAD YOUR PERFORMANCE IS; WHAT MATTERS IS WHETHER YOUR BOSS LIKES YOU OR NOT.

Management Story 1

Management Story 1

It's a fine sunny day in the forest and a lion is sitting outside his cave, lying lazily in the sun. Along comes a fox, out on a walk.

Fox: "Do you know the time, because my watch is broken"

Lion: "Oh, I can easily fix the watch for you"

Fox: "Hmm... But it's a very complicated mechanism, and your big claws will only destroy it even more"

Lion: "Oh no, give it to me, and it will be fixed"

Fox: "That's ridiculous! Any fool knows that lazy lions with great claws cannot fix complicated watches"

Lion: "Sure they do, give it to me and it will be fixed"

The lion disappears into his cave, and after a while he comes back with the watch which is running perfectly. The fox is impressed, and the lion continues to lie lazily in the sun, looking very pleased with himself.

Soon a wolf comes along and stops to watch the lazy lion in the sun.

Wolf: "Can I come and watch TV tonight with you, because mine is broken"

Lion: "Oh, I can easily fix your TV for you"
Wolf: "You don't expect me to believe such rubbish, do you? There is no way that a lazy lion with big claws can fix a complicated TV“

Lion: "No problem. Do you want to try it?"

The lion goes into his cave, and after a while comes back with a perfectly fixed TV. The wolf goes away happily and amazed.

Scene : Inside the lion's cave. In one corner are half a dozen small and intelligent looking rabbits who are busily doing very complicated work with very detailed instruments. In the other corner lies a huge lion looking very pleased with himself.

IF YOU WANT TO KNOW WHY A MANAGER IS FAMOUS; LOOK AT THE WORK OF HIS SUBORDINATES.

IF YOU WANT TO KNOW WHY SOMEONE UNDESERVED IS PROMOTED; LOOK AT THE WORK OF HIS SUBORDINATES.

The 90/10 Principle Stephen Convey

The 90/10 Principle
Author : Stephen Covey ( Management Guru)


Have you read this before?

Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you
react to situations). What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how
you react. What does this mean?


We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the
car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our
whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control
over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How?


By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can control your
reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.


Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup
of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what
happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.
You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She
breaks down in tears.

After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing
the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows.
You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your
daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for
school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You
rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you
drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.

After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at
school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After
arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.
Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and
worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find
small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.

Why?

Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is " D".


You had no control over what happened with the coffee.
How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.


Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say,
"It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a
towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you
come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting
on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully
greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.


Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.

Why? Because of how you REACTED.

You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90%
was determined by your reaction.


Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.

If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the
attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative
comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong
reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out
etc.


How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?

Do you lose your temper?

Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall
off)

Do you curse?

Does your blood pressure skyrocket?

Do you try and bump them?

WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin
your drive?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will
work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.

Bad days follow bad days.

Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. There is constant stress,
lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time. Anger breaks
friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends
are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you? If
so, do not be discouraged..


You can be different!

Understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life.........!!!!!!!